The idea of letting go of the love of your life may seem incredible. It may seem impossible. But this decision is far superior to hanging on to a person who no longer wants you as a life partner. Consider that the person you were when he or she came to love you -- exemplified your best. The most endearing and fantastic qualities you possess were very likely responsible for your partner being attracted to you in the beginning. You need to remember how you are when you are at your best. No matter what transpired between you, the gifts you bring to the world are still important and valid. If you love something, set it free is the best approach to take right now.
You may be too hurt at the moment to consider friendship as an evolution in your relationship with your ex. But considering that unless yours was a love-at-first-sight scenario or similar immediate chemistry attraction, most of us begin a relationship by being friends with the person.
If a person could hold fresh in his mind, what he found attractive about his partner in the first place, he would have an easier time appreciating that partner on a daily basis. Remember when Cinderella asked "Do you love me because I'm beautiful or am I beautiful because you love me?" There is a lot of truth to this question. As time goes on though, the idiosyncrasies about a person-sometimes positive but usually irritating little annoyances-take center stage. When this happens we spend less time in an adoring, appreciating frame of mind and a great deal of time wondering what the hell we're doing in this relationship.
Reaching the let's be friends point is a positive arena. This means constructive and careful communication is possible. Tread lightly, because emotions might still be raw; memories of the past few weeks or months of strain are still fresh. Here you want to focus on what good things came of your union. Pick up an experience, polish it, view it through a magnifying glass to see the precious detail. Relish the positive, discard the negative.
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