Understanding Women - Answering Five Common Questions Men Ask

Have you noticed that as soon as you think you've got her figured out she does something that puts you right back to square one?

No matter how hard men try or what clever strategies men use, at the end of the day the fairer sex remains an elusive mystery.

Although impossible to truly understand a woman, the rewards of being able to navigate her world are certainly worth the effort.

Based on interviews, here are 5 common questions men asked followed by brief explanations of what's going on in her world in each case.

1) "What is she thinking?" - You ask this question when she does something that doesn't make sense to you.

Example: She's due at a wedding party in four hours and needs shoes to match her dress. Yesterday, she commented on a pair she saw in the shoe store just around the corner saying they would be perfect for the party. Rather than go there for the shoes, she insists on driving to the busy mall that is forty minutes away.

You need to know that you can't judge her logic by yours. If she's doing something that doesn't make sense to you, be open to the strong probability that she has different goals in mind.

2) "Why does she want so much attention?" - You ask this question when she occurs as being needy.

Example: She gets upset and says, "You never tell me you love me." and you don't know what she's talking about because you just told her you loved her a couple of days ago.

You need to know that for women attention is a measure they use to judge their own worth and attractiveness. This is ongoing for women and will be satisfied until the next time she wants your attention. It's not really personal to her, it's how she's hard wired.

3) "Why is she always changing her mind?" - You ask this question when you are in the middle of doing something for her and she decides she wants something else.

Example: She told you she wanted French Cuisine on your Saturday evening dinner date and right after you made the reservations she told you she'd rather have Thai.

You need to know that a woman has a much more complicated relationship to her desires than you do. When it comes to what she wants her priorities can change very quickly. It helps to maintain a measure of flexibility whenever you can because if you get upset every time she changes her mind she'll begin to pull back and won't trust you.

4) "Why does she get so jealous when I look at other women?" - You ask this question when you feel like she's controlling, censoring or watching you like a hawk.

Example: You and her are sitting outside the ice-cream parlor and a beautiful woman walks by. You watch her from the front approaching and from behind after she passes you. Your girlfriend/wife calls you a pig and wants to know why you are looking at younger women.

She doesn't realize that most of the time this is an automatic response for you, something you don't consciously choose to do and you don't have as much control as she thinks.

You need to know that it's just as natural for a woman to doubt her own attractiveness and when she sees you looking at another woman this doubt is automatically triggered. It really has nothing to do with you OR the other woman. Rather than be defensive you can diffuse her emotions by reassuring and reminding her that it's her that you've chosen - it's her that you're with.

5) "Why is she so dramatic?" - You ask this question just as you thought everything was going smoothly when all hell seems to break loose over there with her.

Example: You're girlfriend/wife has a very animated conversation with her girlfriend about her most recent break-up. She spends several hours on the telephone talking about the same thing all the while getting more upset. Her emotional response seems out of proportion to the circumstance.

You need to know that women often use their reactions to create motion for themselves. Women love movement - it adds variety and entertainment to their lives. Rather she does this sort of thing with her girlfriend than pick a fight with you because she is bored.

Jason and my purpose in business is to share with men and women principles of natural relating that will not only transform your relationship, but will saturate it with purpose, power and passion. It all starts by appreciating him and cherishing her.