If we observe ourselves keenly, we will notice that, in what concern the "Do you love me?" question, we are simply ridiculous. We look like we have no self-esteem and self-assurance whatsoever and therefore we demand to receive them from our men. For men, it is enough to say it once or perhaps once in a while, but they truly cringe at the sound of "Say you love me." Of course, they love us or they would not be with us. Period. Let's move on and stop bugging them. It appears as though they are not romantic, but that may not be the case. Besides, let's face it: if a man comes to all the time saying "I love you," in no time we would get tired of it.
In the movie "The Godfather" the family is in crisis because Don Corleone has been shot. From the kitchen, Clemenza calls Michael to answer to a phone call from Kay, his girlfriend. There are many men in the kitchen where the phone is. Kay, in that mushy attitude typical of women in love, asks Michael to tell her he loves her. Now, how can Michael respond to this? He is concerned about his father, there is a crisis going on, he is in front of many men. Expecting him to say "I love you" is absolutely unrealistic.
Most men detest this mushy frame of mind that we put ourselves in, though, out of love and unselfishness, they put up with it. And yet, we do this all the time: we call his work, we ask when he is watching sports, during dinner, while he is washing the car, etc.
Let's us understand that when the time is right, he will say "I love you" even if he doesn't mean it!
A Word of Advice
Ladies: Though it is nice to have many reassurances about our men's love, let's refrain from demanding attention and requiring loving gestures and phrases when they are doing something else. And don't take it personally; it is only a matter of bad timing.
Gents: Remind them that there is a time for everything and that you may not be available for display of love and affection when you are in a business meeting.
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